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Tuesday, July 19, 2011

Change Your Thinking

“If you can’t change your fate, change your attitude.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson  
     When I was diagnosed with Fibromyalgia, the rheumatologist came in and said, "I have good news and bad news.  The good news is it won't kill you and the bad news is it will never go away and there is nothing I can do for you."  I was on a leave of absence from work, barely able to move, and feeling sorry for myself.  One night I realized that he was right.  There was nothing I could do to make it go away and all this energy feeling sorry for myself was making my body feel worse.  I started to think about the positive side - it wouldn't kill me.  Well, that's not such a bad diagnosis when you think about it like that.  There are plenty of worse things I could have.  Once I started thinking about that little glimmer of positive energy, I began to feel a little better.   
     There are so many things in life I can't change or control.  I can't change mental illness or sexual orientation.  I can't change hallucinations or money issues.  I can't change the people around me or the way the world is.  Focusing on the "can'ts" doesn't change them, it only makes me feel miserable. Accepting the "can'ts" doesn't mean I like it or it's okay, it just lets me focus on all the "cans" in my life.  It's all good because life works out the way it's supposed to be.  None of us gets out alive, so we may as well enjoy the journey.


  1. "It will never go away"...I never heard that when I was diagnosed. Anyway, I am sorry about that. Focusing on the 'cans'...I need to do that more. Thanks for sharing. Take care.

    Peace, Nico

  2. So true Tiff! It's an exercise in futility to worry about, or focus on, anything outside of our direct control.

    Wise post. I like it very much.

  3. Very wise, Tiff. Focusing on the "can't's" just makes them bigger. No need for that. You are putting your energy into that you DO want more of, more joy,laughter, life and love. This is wso good.